Is the intimacy in your relationship fading? Here are some tips to rekindle those memorable moments in your relationship, trying something new.
Pillow talk: There is something magical about the whispered conversations in bed. Lying together under the covers lends itself to intimacy. If you do nothing else, change your routine so that you spend some quality time between the sheets together, even if it's just to talk.
Give a compliment: It is easy to criticise and complain but too much negativity to erode even the strongest of relationships. Studies show that it takes seven positive comments to balance out a negative one - so start spreading the love!
The power of touch: Good communication is not just about talking. A hug at the end of a hard day or a reassuring squeeze of the hand can mean so much. If you find you rarely touch your partner, it is worth getting back into the habit. Make a conscious effort to hold hands when you go out, whether in the street or a restaurant.
Try something new today: Escape your daily routine and do something new. A shared new experience will bring you together and give you something new to talk about, if nothing else!
Get away from it all: Even strong relationships can stagnate if you don't look for new ways to explore and enjoy each other's company. The fastest way to kick start things is to take a break from everyday life. Visit a foreign country and experience new cultures, and you're likely to learn things about each other too.
If you cannot afford a foreign holiday, go camping instead. Fresh air, sunshine and getting back to nature will leave you feeling refreshed and new - plus, the kids will love it.
Surprise one another: Most of us accept that it's natural for a relationship to change over time (research suggests that the initial excitement stage lasts for 18 months) but that's no reason to let things get stale. Surprise your partner with tickets to an event you know they would love - and hide them somewhere unexpected for extra fun.
Rekindle old passions: What was it that used to make you feel alive? Rekindle the passions and interests you had when you were single - only this time enjoy them together as a couple. Take it in turns to suggest an activity and agree, beforehand, that you will both make an effort to participate and be positive. With any luck, you will rekindle the passion for each other, as well as rediscover an old hobby.
Play with each other: At the end of a long day, sometimes, you just want to slump in front of the TV. There is nothing wrong with that but staring at a screen is not likely to create intimacy, unless you are cuddled up watching a romantic movie!
Have a laugh: We have all heard how 'laughter is the best medicine' - and it's true for our relationships, as well as our health. When we laugh, the body releases endorphins into the bloodstream, including serotonin- nature's anti-depressant- which makes us feel good.
Laughter also has the power to strengthen the emotional bonds between people. Tickle each other, book tickets to see a stand-up comedian or learn clowning skills for the day - anything that makes you giggle will bring you closer together.
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